Nowadays everybody seems to be interested only in his or her own profit.
However a lot of people feel that this is wrong and want to become other-oriented.
If you think that people don't notice you don't care about them - maybe you think it only looks like you have no time - you are horribly wrong.
And that's something people find very hard to forgive.
Maybe you ask yourself why you need to be other-oriented.
First of all there is scientific evidence that people who connect live longer.
In fact, people with poor social connections are three times more likely to die of medical illness than those who have good social contacts.
Self-oriented people don't realize that other people can help them with their problems, needs and desires - and probably much faster, easier and better than trying to reach their goals on their own.
In order to become other-oriented you need to develop an honest interest in people.
A simple trick to do this is to notice common interests.
People with common interests have natural rapport.
If you want to create rapport with strangers you need to learn how to become like them.
If you want to find out whether you have similar interests, you need to ask.
Most people are so busy with their lives all they do when meet people is talking about themselves, their problems, goals and wishes.
Other-oriented people don't take themselves that seriously.
They show an honest interest in other people - they ask and listen.
This is a special attitude you need to develop.