The 2 Essential Parenting Guidelines For Close Father And Daughter Relationships
When it comes to parenting guidelines, there's a one-two combination that made my daughter's 2 year old development a joyful experience, and proved to be an excellent way to strengthen father and daughter relationships.
Ready? Here it is.
Step 1: Act Like A Dog I learned this tip from Dale Carnegie.
It goes something like this.
No living thing is more excited to see you than your dog.
They kick off the reunion with a booming howl and whimpers of joy.
They wag their tail with such excited fury it shakes their whole body.
They race to be close to you as fast as they can, and lick your face until you're drenched.
OK, that last act is a bit over the line for human etiquette, but you get the idea.
Dogs are masters of the greeting.
They consistently and sincerely show an incredible level of joy, excitement and appreciation every time you're reunited and it makes you feel amazing.
I do the same thing for my daughter.
Every time either one of us enters the home I spring into action like a jack in the box.
"Heeeeeey Budyyyyy!" "Papa!" "Sashaaaaaaaaaa!" Then we run toward each other with outstretched hands.
Once in range I sweep her off the ground like a tornado, blanket her in my arms, burry kisses in her cheeks, and hop around with excited joy.
After a couple rotations, we talk face to face with sincere interest about her latest discoveries, accomplishments or adventures.
By the way, we also perform this embarrassing display throughout the day, anytime, anywhere, as long as there's enough distance for the reunion sprint.
If while shopping we happen to lock eyes from opposite ends of the aisle, there we go again, running toward each other like Hollywood co-stars.
The secret to success is consistency.
Show her how excited you are to see her every single time you're reunited and she'll love you for it.
Step 2: Catch And Release The second parental guideline for close father and daughter relationships is equally simple.
When your child climbs up on your lap, hugs your legs, leans into you or gives you some other signal that they're ready for a hug, drop whatever you're doing and give them the biggest, baddest hug you can.
Hold them close, wrap as much of your arms around them as possible.
No exceptions.
But as soon as you feel the first microgram of force pulling away, release them immediately, so they never feel resistance.
If you don't, that sublime embrace suddenly becomes a straightjacket and your child's experience changes from a joyful one to a feeling of imprisonment and distress.
Like most human interactions, as long as you keep it completely voluntary, and never coerced, both participants benefit, the relationship grows stronger, and you both keep coming back for more.
The psychology behind this conduct is simple.
By behaving in a genuinely enthusiastic, loving, yet respectful way, you're allowing your daughter to form positive associations with you, your face, your embrace, etc.
You're maximizing the enjoyment you both receive from the time you spend together.
Now hopefully I'll remember this when my daughter wants to be released in more significant ways like "Dad, I want to go on a road trip with Bruno.
" As long as Bruno understands the catch and release concept too, it will be time to release my daughter into the wild so she keeps coming back for more Hollywood style reunions.
Ready? Here it is.
Step 1: Act Like A Dog I learned this tip from Dale Carnegie.
It goes something like this.
No living thing is more excited to see you than your dog.
They kick off the reunion with a booming howl and whimpers of joy.
They wag their tail with such excited fury it shakes their whole body.
They race to be close to you as fast as they can, and lick your face until you're drenched.
OK, that last act is a bit over the line for human etiquette, but you get the idea.
Dogs are masters of the greeting.
They consistently and sincerely show an incredible level of joy, excitement and appreciation every time you're reunited and it makes you feel amazing.
I do the same thing for my daughter.
Every time either one of us enters the home I spring into action like a jack in the box.
"Heeeeeey Budyyyyy!" "Papa!" "Sashaaaaaaaaaa!" Then we run toward each other with outstretched hands.
Once in range I sweep her off the ground like a tornado, blanket her in my arms, burry kisses in her cheeks, and hop around with excited joy.
After a couple rotations, we talk face to face with sincere interest about her latest discoveries, accomplishments or adventures.
By the way, we also perform this embarrassing display throughout the day, anytime, anywhere, as long as there's enough distance for the reunion sprint.
If while shopping we happen to lock eyes from opposite ends of the aisle, there we go again, running toward each other like Hollywood co-stars.
The secret to success is consistency.
Show her how excited you are to see her every single time you're reunited and she'll love you for it.
Step 2: Catch And Release The second parental guideline for close father and daughter relationships is equally simple.
When your child climbs up on your lap, hugs your legs, leans into you or gives you some other signal that they're ready for a hug, drop whatever you're doing and give them the biggest, baddest hug you can.
Hold them close, wrap as much of your arms around them as possible.
No exceptions.
But as soon as you feel the first microgram of force pulling away, release them immediately, so they never feel resistance.
If you don't, that sublime embrace suddenly becomes a straightjacket and your child's experience changes from a joyful one to a feeling of imprisonment and distress.
Like most human interactions, as long as you keep it completely voluntary, and never coerced, both participants benefit, the relationship grows stronger, and you both keep coming back for more.
The psychology behind this conduct is simple.
By behaving in a genuinely enthusiastic, loving, yet respectful way, you're allowing your daughter to form positive associations with you, your face, your embrace, etc.
You're maximizing the enjoyment you both receive from the time you spend together.
Now hopefully I'll remember this when my daughter wants to be released in more significant ways like "Dad, I want to go on a road trip with Bruno.
" As long as Bruno understands the catch and release concept too, it will be time to release my daughter into the wild so she keeps coming back for more Hollywood style reunions.
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