Reality is that a person carries out suicide when the pain of living is greater than his ability to cope with it.
He is seeking pain relief and not necessarily death, but cannot find a better mechanism to remove the pain.
In this context, the "pain" may be physical or psychological.
Suicide statistics are frightening.
In England and Wales alone, there are 4,700 reported suicides annually, though the real number may be vastly greater.
Approximately 70% of suicides are of men and the most frequent age is between 18 years and 24 years.
For the person who commits suicide, it is a way of dealing with a problem when all other coping mechanisms have failed.
The usual coping mechanism being alcohol, drugs (either prescription or illegal), or even self harming.
It must be remembered that the person is not seeking to die, just remove the problem.
Ideally, they would remove the cause of their distress and live, but they do not know how to achieve this end.
A common cause of suicide is physical illness where there is pain and little hope of recovery.
In general, people see this cause of suicide in a different light, but illness is not the prime cause of suicide.
The main cause of suicide is psychological.
It may be brought about by the death of someone close, by divorce or by health problems in general.
The cause may be an accumulation of psychological pressure as a result of early life experiences such as sexual abuse.
The cause may be low self esteem or depression that will not lift.
Psychological pressure could also be financial following a business failure or the loss of earnings.
A third cause of suicide that cannot be ignored is that introduced by prescription medicines.
It is well known, for example, that Prozac generates ideas of suicide that may not have existed beforehand.
The idea that people who talk about suicide do not carry it out is false.
People generally talk about it, and they carry out attempts and rehearsals of their suicide plan.
They may indulge in self harming beforehand and they may display signs of reckless behaviour.
The signs are there if people know what to look for.
In the United Kingdom, since the Suicide Act 1961, it is no longer illegal to commit suicide.
It is illegal, however, to assist someone to carry out suicide.
The law varies from country to country and there are pressure groups who are seeking to change the law making suicide easier and more dignified.
Obviously, for the successful suicide, the problems are over, but this invariably leaves survivors who may be devastated.
Those who have had a family member commit suicide will probably require psychotherapy to deal with it.
Apart from the confusion and anger, most survivors feel guilt.
They feel that they should have been able to do something to prevent it.
There is also the fear that a parent who carries out suicide may carry a gene that predisposes the children to do the same.
Whilst there is no evidence that this is the case, when someone carries out suicide, it does seem to engender similar thoughts in others.
Though talking to friends is always a good idea, those considering suicide should talk to a professional psychotherapist.
Problems can be resolved in other ways.
One of the difficulties is that the potential suicide has already concluded that there is no other way out and cannot understand how a professional can make a difference.
Having come to that conclusion, it is often hard work to persuade the person to delay their action until therapy has been explored.
Those who have been close to a person who has committed suicide will need to talk it through so that they can understand what has happened and how it relates to themselves.
Survivors may find themselves in financial difficulties, they may even become homeless.
The psychological pressures of the bereavement coupled with the domestic consequences can be overwhelming.
Suicide seems to enter most people's minds at some point in their life.
Most people reject the thought and find alternatives to their difficulties.
Sometimes, the one factor that saves them is the thought of the pain and misery that they would leave behind for their family to deal with.
No matter what the situation, professional help can be effective, provided the therapist is sufficiently experienced.
Interested people may email with questions, observations and feedback on their experiences if they chose to do so.
By sharing experiences, it enables others to heal by recognising that what has happened to them is not unique.
Confidentiality is guaranteed for anyone willing to write.
If anyone has a need, visit the website http://www.
san-luis-clinic.
co.
uk.
He is seeking pain relief and not necessarily death, but cannot find a better mechanism to remove the pain.
In this context, the "pain" may be physical or psychological.
Suicide statistics are frightening.
In England and Wales alone, there are 4,700 reported suicides annually, though the real number may be vastly greater.
Approximately 70% of suicides are of men and the most frequent age is between 18 years and 24 years.
For the person who commits suicide, it is a way of dealing with a problem when all other coping mechanisms have failed.
The usual coping mechanism being alcohol, drugs (either prescription or illegal), or even self harming.
It must be remembered that the person is not seeking to die, just remove the problem.
Ideally, they would remove the cause of their distress and live, but they do not know how to achieve this end.
A common cause of suicide is physical illness where there is pain and little hope of recovery.
In general, people see this cause of suicide in a different light, but illness is not the prime cause of suicide.
The main cause of suicide is psychological.
It may be brought about by the death of someone close, by divorce or by health problems in general.
The cause may be an accumulation of psychological pressure as a result of early life experiences such as sexual abuse.
The cause may be low self esteem or depression that will not lift.
Psychological pressure could also be financial following a business failure or the loss of earnings.
A third cause of suicide that cannot be ignored is that introduced by prescription medicines.
It is well known, for example, that Prozac generates ideas of suicide that may not have existed beforehand.
The idea that people who talk about suicide do not carry it out is false.
People generally talk about it, and they carry out attempts and rehearsals of their suicide plan.
They may indulge in self harming beforehand and they may display signs of reckless behaviour.
The signs are there if people know what to look for.
In the United Kingdom, since the Suicide Act 1961, it is no longer illegal to commit suicide.
It is illegal, however, to assist someone to carry out suicide.
The law varies from country to country and there are pressure groups who are seeking to change the law making suicide easier and more dignified.
Obviously, for the successful suicide, the problems are over, but this invariably leaves survivors who may be devastated.
Those who have had a family member commit suicide will probably require psychotherapy to deal with it.
Apart from the confusion and anger, most survivors feel guilt.
They feel that they should have been able to do something to prevent it.
There is also the fear that a parent who carries out suicide may carry a gene that predisposes the children to do the same.
Whilst there is no evidence that this is the case, when someone carries out suicide, it does seem to engender similar thoughts in others.
Though talking to friends is always a good idea, those considering suicide should talk to a professional psychotherapist.
Problems can be resolved in other ways.
One of the difficulties is that the potential suicide has already concluded that there is no other way out and cannot understand how a professional can make a difference.
Having come to that conclusion, it is often hard work to persuade the person to delay their action until therapy has been explored.
Those who have been close to a person who has committed suicide will need to talk it through so that they can understand what has happened and how it relates to themselves.
Survivors may find themselves in financial difficulties, they may even become homeless.
The psychological pressures of the bereavement coupled with the domestic consequences can be overwhelming.
Suicide seems to enter most people's minds at some point in their life.
Most people reject the thought and find alternatives to their difficulties.
Sometimes, the one factor that saves them is the thought of the pain and misery that they would leave behind for their family to deal with.
No matter what the situation, professional help can be effective, provided the therapist is sufficiently experienced.
Interested people may email with questions, observations and feedback on their experiences if they chose to do so.
By sharing experiences, it enables others to heal by recognising that what has happened to them is not unique.
Confidentiality is guaranteed for anyone willing to write.
If anyone has a need, visit the website http://www.
san-luis-clinic.
co.
uk.
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