Ali (name changed for anonymity) saw me for a desire to drink alcohol.
A recovering addict, Ali has made the decision to stay away from all substances except for cigarettes.
He is doing wonderfully.
On this occasion, he came to stay on track after a serious temptation a few nights previously.
The incident in question was when Ali, a new love interest, plus a friend and her boyfriend, all went out for a meal.
There was alcohol and it was a big temptation to Ali.
Now in my experience, a meal per se does not make you want to drink alcohol.
And the alcohol itself is often blamed for the temptation to drink it.
But a bottle of wine or a glass of beer on their own do not force anyone to drink them.
Rather, there is an energy disruption inside the tempted person that makes them feel stressed.
And they know that if they drank the alcohol, this stress would decrease.
I happen to know from previous sessions that Ali has some social anxiety remaining.
And so that was the most obvious source of stress.
With this in mind, I asked Ali who at that table made the drinking desire greater for him.
It was clear that it was the stranger, the friend's boyfriend, and the attractive lady.
Ali said that this was because he felt comfortable and relatively at ease with his friend.
I then asked Ali to rate this feeling.
We started at an 8 out of 10 in the desire to have alcohol if Ali was to relive that evening.
So we tapped on the following aspects.
Then I asked him to lose his eyes and imagine himself he was there, imagining vividly the sights, sounds, smells, where he was sitting, etc.
He did, and the desire was still zero.
It was a success.
We finished by working on self-love in general terms.
We increased Ali's self-love when in in a particular situation.
This was in front of strangers.
It improved from a 40 percent to a 45 percent.
This is a work in progress, and Ali is doing marvelously.
Thank you so much, Ali, for allowing me to publish your story.
A recovering addict, Ali has made the decision to stay away from all substances except for cigarettes.
He is doing wonderfully.
On this occasion, he came to stay on track after a serious temptation a few nights previously.
The incident in question was when Ali, a new love interest, plus a friend and her boyfriend, all went out for a meal.
There was alcohol and it was a big temptation to Ali.
Now in my experience, a meal per se does not make you want to drink alcohol.
And the alcohol itself is often blamed for the temptation to drink it.
But a bottle of wine or a glass of beer on their own do not force anyone to drink them.
Rather, there is an energy disruption inside the tempted person that makes them feel stressed.
And they know that if they drank the alcohol, this stress would decrease.
I happen to know from previous sessions that Ali has some social anxiety remaining.
And so that was the most obvious source of stress.
With this in mind, I asked Ali who at that table made the drinking desire greater for him.
It was clear that it was the stranger, the friend's boyfriend, and the attractive lady.
Ali said that this was because he felt comfortable and relatively at ease with his friend.
I then asked Ali to rate this feeling.
We started at an 8 out of 10 in the desire to have alcohol if Ali was to relive that evening.
So we tapped on the following aspects.
- "People are judging me at this table.
I fear they don't like me" - "My world will collapse"
- "I judge myself by how much people like me"
- "I need people to like me"
- Uncertainty of how to proceed with the potential new girlfriend and ask her out on a date
Then I asked him to lose his eyes and imagine himself he was there, imagining vividly the sights, sounds, smells, where he was sitting, etc.
He did, and the desire was still zero.
It was a success.
We finished by working on self-love in general terms.
We increased Ali's self-love when in in a particular situation.
This was in front of strangers.
It improved from a 40 percent to a 45 percent.
This is a work in progress, and Ali is doing marvelously.
Thank you so much, Ali, for allowing me to publish your story.
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